Burton-Washburn Genealogy

Reuben COX

Male 1818 - 1888  (70 years)


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  • Name Reuben COX 
    Born 13 Feb 1818  Randolph County, North Carolina Find all individuals with events at this location 
    Gender Male 
    Died 28 Jun 1888  Randolph County, North Carolina Find all individuals with events at this location 
    Person ID I56  Washburn & allied families
    Last Modified 6 Sep 2022 

    Father Abel COX,   b. 15 May 1776, Guilford County, North Carolina Find all individuals with events at this location,   d. 21 Jun 1854, Randolph County, North Carolina Find all individuals with events at this location  (Age 78 years) 
    Mother Sarah COX,   b. 16 Apr 1782, Randolph County, North Carolina Find all individuals with events at this location,   d. 16 Nov 1852, Randolph County, North Carolina Find all individuals with events at this location  (Age 70 years) 
    Married 1800 
    Family ID F29  Group Sheet  |  Family Chart

    Family Mary Harmon LAWRENCE,   b. 22 Jul 1827, Randolph County, North Carolina Find all individuals with events at this location,   d. 8 Sep 1893, Ramseur, North Carolina Find all individuals with events at this location  (Age 66 years) 
    Married 7 Mar 1861  Randolph County, North Carolina Find all individuals with events at this location 
    Children 
     1. Stanley Stanford COX,   b. 20 Dec 1861,   d. 2 Dec 1929  (Age 67 years)
     2. Martha Jane COX,   b. 13 Jan 1864,   d. 15 Oct 1881  (Age 17 years)
     3. Romelier Eleanor COX,   b. 11 Jun 1866,   d. 4 Jan 1941  (Age 74 years)
     4. Lenneous Isaac COX,   b. 20 Nov 1868, Randolph County, North Carolina Find all individuals with events at this location,   d. 5 Sep 1919, Elon College, Alamance County, North Carolina Find all individuals with events at this location  (Age 50 years)
     5. Millard Arlendo COX,   b. 14 Apr 1873,   d. 11 Oct 1881  (Age 8 years)
    Last Modified 29 Nov 2023 
    Family ID F28  Group Sheet  |  Family Chart

  • Notes 

    • The following info is from Walter “Buddy” Yates Boyd, Jr.’s family history of the L. I. Cox family:

      Reuben was a twin. His twin brother was William Cox, who married Sarah B. Moffitt. It has been said that Reuben and William did everything together. They went west to Missouri at the same time in the 1850s and came back at the same time in the fall of 1859. Then they bought farms near each other and got married (to women who were first cousins) within a year of one another, with Reuben marrying Mary Harmon Lawrence.

      Reuben’s farm was just off Iron Mountain View Road, north of the Pleasant Ridge Christian Church and south of the town of Franklinville. William’s farm was just a short distance away, off Firefox Road. Both farms backed up to Mill Creek and both pieces of property were close to the gold mine that was owned by their maternal uncle Mike Cox.

      Both became Master Masons on the same day—August 14, 1865—at Hank’s Lodge in Franklinville, NC, Randolph County, NC.

      Reuben and William even did things alike when it came to having children: Both had 5 children—3 boys and 2 girls—all born between 1861 and 1873.

      Reuben & Mary (Lawrence) Cox’s eldest child was Stanley Stanford Cox, born Dec. 20, 1861.

      Stanley was followed by two girls: Martha Jane Cox, born Jan. 13, 1864, and Romelier Eleanor Cox, born June 11, 1866.

      Reuben and Mary’s fourth child was a boy, LENNEOUS ISAAC COX, born Nov 20, 1868. He probably received his middle name in honor of his grandfather, Isaac Lawrence. Lenneous apparently disliked his first name—which his eldest daughter, Stella (Cox) Huffines, said was pronounced “Len-us”—because no one can recall him ever being called by it. He always went by “L. I. COX.”

      The couple’s last child was a boy named Millard Arlendo Cox, born Apr 4, 1873.

      Reuben and William Cox were no longer Quakers, but they seem to have gotten along well with their Quaker relatives and the other Friends of the Holly Spring community. Reuben and William and their families were members of the Pleasant Ridge Christian Church, which was only a short distance southeast of where they lived. Reuben’s family was reportedly very pious, perhaps due to his wife Mary Lawrence Cox’s influence, and their children were brought up in a religious atmosphere.

      Reuben raised hogs and sheep on his farm, but it is not known whether he raised them for profit or just for use by his family. Most farmers in Randolph County at the time had a few head of sheep, but they were raised just for their wool. The sheep were sheared, and the wood then carded and woven into winter clothing. Reuben no doubt had a cow and some chickens as well. As far as crops, he raised corn, and probably wheat, oats, and potatoes as well—but just for family use, not as cash crops. He also probably had orchards where he grew apples, pears, persimmons, figs, and other fruits. It is known that he had several blackberry vines.

      Reuben’s primary contribution to the upbringing of his children was probably teaching them common sense—a trait for which the Coxes had long been well-known in Randolph County. His Quaker background had instilled in him the importance of living a simple, dignified, and hard-working life. He also knew how to stretch a dollar and the importance of buying goods of high quality. All of these characteristics were exhibited by his children—particularly Lenneous.

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      On Feb 23, 2019, Walter “Buddy” Yates Boyd, told Bruce Washburn the following about Reuben: “He raised sheep, sheared them, and wove the wool into blankets on a loom he built himself. I have the wool carders he was holding when he died in 1888 and a blanket he made. Grandmother said when they found him, rigor mortis had already set in, and they had to pry the wool carders from his hands. I don't know why they were saved all of those years. Seems like a morbid memento. But then someone saved the ladle that an old Cox ancestor cracked over the head of a Catawba Indian who kidnapped Amy Cox. I have that, too.”

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      Reuben was living in Grant township in Randolph County, NC, during the 1880 census.